This person is earnestly hurting someone. It is way too much drama.

She will not wind up if you stop seeing him, BTW, so this isn’t about you stepping out of the way with him even. It is simply. You shouldn’t be a right component for this any more. Never rest with whoever is really so careless towards other people. Simply. Do Not.

PS. I do not think you ought to acknowledge her message. You might help her, I’ll pop back in here if I can think of some way. She actually is demonstrably pretty obsessed. You are most most likely perhaps perhaps perhaps not the individual to clue her in as to how heartless this person is though she really really needs to know towards her, even. Published by jbenben at 6:30 PM on 18, 2013 12 favorites january

Then I asked him if he had been likely to continue steadily to see her, he stated I do not understand- wtf!

Huge banner. On a FWB basis – which it doesn’t seem likely she’d want if she claims they’ve broken up, what is he going to do – sleep with her? Or lie to her and pretend like he is stopped seeing you (or anyone else)? Or he will keep leading on a FWB who obviously wishes (and believes she’s got) more, despite the fact that he does not?

It is a strange solution it doesn’t paint him in a light that is trustworthy. Published by rtha at 6:35 PM on 18, 2013 january

This: I became contacted by my FWB’s « girlfriend,  » telling me because he kept cheating on her with me that it was over between them.

He had been completely blase and stated than he did for her, that he was not her boyfriend, but that she was his other FWB that he knew she had stronger feelings for him.

Equals confirmation that her allegation holds true. Which he considers her an FWB is wholly unimportant. He knew she had more powerful feelings for him.

I will be struggling to get together again the chance as a person that he has had a girlfriend this whole time with my perception of him. Whenever I confronted him, he failed to appear nervous or uncomfortable– to phrase it differently he did not behave like he’d been caught.

Which is because he had beenn’t « caught » cheating on you. He had been caught maybe maybe perhaps not caring about somebody else’s feelings. Since he does not worry about other folks’s emotions, he does not care if he is caught maybe not caring.

When they were fwb and she dropped for him then that is a different sort of situation…

I believe that’s where you ought to dig deeper in terms of your opinion that is own about matter. Let`s say as he admits, she fell for him and believed that they were boyfriend/girlfriend. Then let’s assume that he’s telling the truth that he knew that she had those feelings but that he nevertheless continued (and may still continue) to have sex with her while also having sex with you that they were FWB, and that.

Think about this: how come that the situation that is different? Posted by The entire world known at 6:37 PM on 18, 2013 16 favorites

When I confronted him, he did not seem nervous or uncomfortable– in other words he didn’t act like he’d been caught january.

I do believe it is a lot easier to fake being generically relaxed than to fake a psychological reaction really appropriate to a scenario. In this instance, if he were telling the facts, some appropriate reactions might add « WTF?!  » incredulity or vexation/disgust with his other FWB, possibly even surprise and laughter at her behavior, along side some form of upset over just how it affected you. But relax? Perchance you know him to be always a character that is remarkably even-keeled handles anxiety without nervousness or disquiet, but because of the circumstances, it appears more prone to end up being the demeanor he has got practiced when it comes to previous 12 months while lying their pants down and hiding sets from every person. I am confident that is a predicament that could need an abundance of extremely relaxed, non-nervous lying to display.

That is just one single point. In line with the entire photo, I would recommend dropping him like a hot stone. Published by Monsieur Caution at 6:52 PM on January 18, 2013 2 favorites

She ended up being improper inside her message for you, but he does not seem therefore appropriate in their discussion to you.

Bigamy takes place with astonishing regularity, where some body has two whole marriages, homes, and sets of kiddies, and so I’m not certain why you might think some one could not inform someone « Oh, we are a couple that is exclusive and someone else « Oh, we are friends with advantages » and make it off for decades. Possibly she travels a complete great deal for company. Perhaps he tells her he travels a complete great deal for company, but he is been investing the period to you.

It really comes down to him or not if you believe. He is known by you, we do not. Published by Sidhedevil at 6:53 PM on January 18, 2013

Giving A twitter message is « crazy » nowadays? Jesus Christ. She’sn’t a random chick with an unrequited crush trying to stir up shit. It really is verified that she is at minimum resting with him, and it is basically confirmed that he had been either cheating on her behalf or stringing her along, each of that are dickish habits on their component. Could be the previous worse? Yes, definitely. Does he go off well in either situation? No, not especially.

There isn’t any method around it: you are likely to need certainly to think someone and think each other is filled with shit Actually, according to my experiences that are own I would side with all the woman. The sisterhood, you understand. YMMV. Published by dekathelon at 7:01 PM on January 18, 2013 20 favorites

Okay, let’s not pretend.

No one in this thread gets the first damn clue whether or not the « girlfriend » is crazy or whether your FWB is filled with shit. Or both. You are not getting advice that is good you are simply seeing a display of men and women’s different biases, presumptions, and prejudices.